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Posted by on Mar 28, 2019 in Marriage Counseling | 0 comments

The Benefits of a Marriage Counselor

Recently, my neighbor told me that he and his wife were having significant issues in their marriage, and they did not know what to do to solve their problems. I had almost no experience in the matter, so I did some research so that I could be a better help to him. I came across the website for Kathleen Snyder MFT, a marriage counselor that has over 20 years of experience helping couples work their problems out. Kathleen is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and she says that couples counseling can be a crucial part of fixing any problems that can arise in a marriage.

The website says that as long as both parties are committed to returning to the love and friendship that the couple once had, then reconciliation is absolutely possible. It’s important to communicate with a therapist that can guide a couple in the right direction in order to minimize the stress of daily interaction in the face of life’s many challenges. Once interaction becomes less stressful, then it becomes easier for the couple to fix any problems and heal any hurt feelings so that friendship and intimacy can return to the relationship.

Kathleen’s website outlined a variety of topics and issues that she has years of experience in helping couples overcome. Something that affects a lot of couples is resentment that builds up after a prolonged conflict. If one or both members of a couple have needs that are unaddressed for long periods of time, resentment and frustration can permeate the entirety of the relationship. It’s important to see a couples’ counselor to have someone to help the couple break through their obstacles to communication so that unmet needs can come to light and be addressed in a healthy way. Couples that face this issue need to commit to turning towards each other rather than away when they begin to feel resentment towards each other.

Kathleen also has experience dealing with affair recovery. Recovering from an affair in a relationship is extremely challenging, and the process should be guided by a professional. The website says that the recovery process should be in two discrete stages. First, the couple needs to set boundaries in their marriage in order to create a sense of security. Both partners need to know when and how to help the other when things are sensitive. After the first stage is complete, the second stage requires the couple to focus on the underlying issues in the relationship that allowed the affair to happen in the first place. It’s important for the couple to have gotten through the immediate implications of the unfaithfulness before they can begin to build a new foundation.

There are many other issues that marriage and family counselors are trained to tackle as well. Many couples have significant differences in parenting style and some experience obstacles to sexual intimacy that can create barriers to communication and emotional intimacy for the couple. Regardless of the issue, marriage counseling is meant to address strong emotions that complicate any issue between a couple. Counselors are trained to work with the strong emotions that their patients feel and offering solutions to manage or channel those emotions.

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Posted by on Oct 12, 2018 in Criminal Defense | 0 comments

What You Can Do When You Are Accused of Petty Theft

Illinois has some tough laws against theft, and those laws can be used to destroy the lives of people who don’t deserve it. It’s an unfortunate situation, and it’s important to me that those who are accused of theft crimes know what the penalties may be and what they can do to avoid those penalties.

To begin with, let’s talk about what petty theft is. Petty (or petit) theft in Illinois involves the theft of between $150 and $300 of property from another. It’s on the smaller (or “petit”) side of theft, and so the consequences are meant to be somewhat scaled down.

Unfortunately, those consequences are still pretty severe. In Illinois, they include a fine of $2500 and a year in prison. That’s quite a serious punishment for accusations that can include the theft of office supplies and shoplifting.

Thankfully, there are defenses against these accusations that you can use to avoid those penalties. According to Illinois criminal defense lawyer Tom Bruno of Bruno Law Offices, some potential defenses include:

  • Claiming ownership of the objects you are accused of stealing
  • Claiming intoxication and therefore no intentional act of theft
  • Claiming mistaken identity, in other words, that you weren’t the person who committed the theft
  • Claiming that you forgot you had the items and accidentally took them
  • Using the fact the items were not found on you to prove you didn’t take them
  • A general lack of intent to steal

These defenses sometimes overlap and they may or may not apply to your case. The important thing is to use the defenses that are strongest for your situation to help prove that you either didn’t mean to steal anything or else outright didn’t steal anything.

Obviously, while on the surface these can seem like very straightforward defenses, you will still need a criminal defense lawyer’s help. It will take a strong acquaintance with the law and the evidence to make the defense strong enough to withstand a prosecutor’s efforts to paint you as a thief.

The Illinois criminal justice system is over-burdened because it so aggressively punishes those who are accused of the most minor crimes. There’s no reason those accused of a first-time petty theft charge should have to spend a year in prison, particularly if the circumstances surrounding their case are not straightforward. If you didn’t mean to steal anything, or if you didn’t steal anything, you shouldn’t be punished at all. Even if intent is there, we shouldn’t be taxing our already over-filled prison system to find more space for those who have done so little wrong.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t look like the law will change any time soon and become more merciful, so the best we can do is make sure everyone accused of these crimes has the best defense possible. Use the tips in this article, and get the best lawyer you can, and hopefully, you can beat the charges against you.

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Posted by on Oct 10, 2017 in Natural Disasters | 0 comments

Texas Rainstorms vs. Texas Natural Disasters

There are few things in this world I enjoy more than curling up under a blanket during a Texas rainstorm. I don’t care if it’s watching a movie, listening to music, or reading a book. The thought of being safe and sound in my own home while watching the chaos through my windows is so satisfying to me. I especially enjoy the sounds of thunder rumbling in the distance and catching a glimpse of white-hot streaks of lightning stretched out across the sky. But Buddy, my seven-year-old snuggle-monster of a pug, doesn’t appreciate it the same way I do. He just knows that it’s scary outside.

Hurricane Harvey was an interesting weather event, to say the least. Despite raining consistently for several days, I didn’t notice any thunder or lightning. On the first day the rain started, Buddy and I walked down to look at the park and saw the creek had risen so high that it covered the entire disc golf course! The winds were really strong, and we didn’t stick around for very long, but I could tell that mother nature was going to shake things up. It was weird how the winds seemed to go one way and then would abruptly shift and go a different direction, only to seemingly stop and then a mighty gust would almost blow me over. It was very strange weather indeed.

As soon as I got back to my house, I discovered a rude surprise; my neighbor’s tree had lost a giant limb and it had crashed right on top of my garage.

Just to clarify… This is not the type of neighbor that you can just go next door and ask for a cup of sugar. This is the type of neighbor who flings their dog poop in your backyard and pretends it didn’t happen because I guess they think German shepherds and pugs have similar bowel movements and the act would go unnoticed – only to be confronted about it later when there is a mysterious cluster of waaaaay-too-big-to-be-Buddy’s you-guessed-it in the back corner, and then lie about it to my face, telling me it’s “probably” pug-poo. Yeah, wonderful people.

They’re also the kind of people who call the cops on you for playing music on a Friday night at 9 pm without having the decency to ask that it be turned down first. Next thing I knew, there’s flashlights shining through all of my back windows and it looked like the whole SWAT team responded just to tell me to turn it down. Who does that!??!

Anyways, I digress. That neighbor’s tree fell on my house and I was super stoked. This was the perfect excuse for me to give a little payback and watch them sweat it with the insurance company. I was so excited!

I called my insurance company right away and talked to Angie (she’s the best), but apparently, if the tree fell on my property, it’s my insurance that handles the claim. Huh, I didn’t know. I did a little searching online and came across this great website that had a lot of helpful information about everything Hurricane Harvey and insurance. I’ve got it bookmarked now and it’s already come in really handy as a resource. Williams Kherkher put a lot of information together in one place, it’s really convenient. As much as I love the rain, Hurricane Harvey was not fun, and I’m hoping the rest of hurricane season stays dry.

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Posted by on Jun 15, 2017 in Car Accidents | 0 comments

Negligence and Car Accidents

Car accidents can happen anytime and anywhere. In fact, even a single mistake while on the wheel can be very devastating. But in a sense, car accidents are understandable if they happen because of legitimate reasons, like innocent driver errors.

Negligence, on the other hand, is a different story. Drivers, vehicle manufacturers, and road maintenance providers can be negligent in a way that can cause car accidents. Whoever is at fault, the fact that there are serious damages will not change.

The website of the Amerio Law Firm has enumerated the most common damages in car accidents, including the obvious financial burdens such as medical costs for the victims, repair costs for the car damages, and emotional burdens such as emotional trauma, pain and suffering, and worst, loss of relationships due to death.

Driver negligence

Drivers can be considered negligent when they do reckless behaviors, such as distracted driving, drunk driving, driving under the influence of drugs, driving while fatigued or sleepy, speeding, street racing, tailgating, and weaving. But even simple behaviors like not using turn signals, rushing through yellow traffic lights, and not yielding to stop signs and pedestrians can also be considered negligent.

According to the website of this Sheboygan accident lawyer, those who have been hurt of car accidents because of someone else’s recklessness may have legal options, which is good news.

Manufacturer negligence

Designers and manufacturers can be considered negligent when there are inherent flaws in the design of the car or its parts or defects caused by the manufacturing process. This is particularly problematic for airbags, brake systems, door latches, seatbelts, and tires, as they can be the primary causes of injuries and accidents.

Like drivers, designers and manufacturers can also be held liable, if they are clearly the ones at fault and not the driver’s lack of maintenance or care towards his or her car.

Maintenance provider negligence

Construction companies and maintenance providers of roads can also be considered negligent, especially if the roads have poor designs or materials that easily break or if there are malfunctioning equipment such as broken traffic lights.

They can be taken to court if the accident is clearly their fault, like on instances where potholes make vehicles lose control and crash and defective traffic lights create right-of-way issues.

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Posted by on Mar 30, 2017 in DUI | 0 comments

The Consequences of a DUI Charge

The Consequences of a DUI Charge

Anyone caught driving while drunk can be charged with any of the following offenses: Driving under the influence (DUI); driving while intoxicated (DWI); or operating under the influence (OUI) – all these are drunken driving charges, (the difference lies only in the terminology used in the state where an offender is arrested and charged).

Drunk-driving is the cause of more than a third of all traffic fatalities in the U.S., which is more than 30,000 every year. In 2010, the US Department of Transportation’s Bureau of Transportation Statistics registered 13,365 fatal car accidents, while the number of those arrested for driving under the influence of alcohol, illegal drugs or both, was 1.4 million.

In all states, driving with a 0.08% (or higher) blood alcohol concentration (BAC) level is a crime, and though the severity of punishment imposed on offenders vary from one state to another, there is one certain uniformity in all jurisdictions – the punishments are severe.

A first offense DUI is usually treated as a misdemeanor; it could be raised to a felony charge, however, if the alcohol-impaired driver injures or kills someone, of if his/her BAC level is higher than the 0.08% (in some states, a third or fourth DUI offense can automatically lead to a felony charge).

Federal and state authorities are hell-bent on catching violators of the anti-drunk driving law, thus, they are sharp and focused on observing any signs of drunk-driving, like swerving, braking erratically, driving too slowly, stopping for no apparent reason and zig-zagging across the road. For this same end, they set up sobriety checkpoints to catch alcohol-impaired drivers or measure the level of alcohol impairment in drivers who seem drunk.

A DUI felony entails costly fines and at least one year jail time (maximum of one year imprisonment is allowed in a misdemeanor charge). In some states, a felony leads to other heavy sentences, such as:

Mandatory installation of an Ignition interlock – a device that prevents a vehicle from starting if it detects in the driver a BAC level that is higher than what is considered a safe level (about 0.02%);

Administrative license suspension (ALS) – a law that authorizes law enforcers to confiscate a driver’s license if the driver fails a chemical test. This can last for 90 days – 180 days, during which driving privileges may be limited to/from work;

Open container – the Open container law, which is administered by the Federal Highway Administration (FHWA) and the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), requires states to prohibit the possession of open alcohol beverage containers, as well as the consumption of an alcoholic beverage, in the passenger area of a motor vehicle on a public highway.

According to Kershaw County DUI lawyers, many of those are arrested for driving under the influence (DUI), often claim that they have only had a few drinks or that they are not intoxicated, despite what a breathalyzer test says. These common excuses, however, do not often hold up in a court of law.

Alcohol-related charges have serious consequences, and a conviction for a DUI crime can dramatically affect a person for the rest of his/her life. Thus, anyone who has been charged with a DUI may find it wise to call a DUI defense attorney as soon as possible to start preparing a valid legal defense that will save him/her from further legal problems.”

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